My Dad passed away back on the 15th of April 2008.  He had been in poor health for a number of years and was very frail, nevertheless, when he died it was a big emotional shock.  I had always wondered what it would feel like to lose a parent and I knew that one day I would find out.  The days following the death of a loved one are strangley chaotic with funeral arrangments and then settling affairs and a raft of paperwork.  When the dust settles you are left with your thoughts and some searching questions about what it all means.  How is a life meaningful and how do you measure that?  The strange gift from losing somebody is a realisation that time marches on rapidly and now is a really good time to do things that you have been putting off for a long time.  A sense of momentum and purpose are healthy and necessarry steps in any recovery process.  I realised that spending 9 days in a room doing my Master NLP Practitioner was the perfect 'healing' time for me.  Accellerated purpose and the ability to reframe experience has been a wonderful gift.  If you have suffered somthing that has troubled you, made you sad or unhappy, focus on your sense of purpose and your contribution to the rest of the world.  Living in the past too much robs you of the present.  Your future is now, or at least how you will remember it.  More tomorrow.